Understanding Attraction

Handling our feelings without hurting our partners

Something almost everyone has experienced at some point while in a relationship is the feeling of being attracted to someone other than your partner. 

This experience affects both men and women equally, and it is completely normal. In fact, attraction is ours first–it should be considered sacred & personal, and not something that has  to be shared. Despite this, many people feel compelled to bring their attractions up to their partners, because not to do so feels dishonest. 

The problem is, many men are not sure when to bring up this topic, or how to do so with tact and compassion for their partner.

In this episode of the Crux, Ryan and Slade dive into the subject of physical attraction and how it can affect our relationships–in both positive and negative ways.

Listen to learn more.

SHOW NOTES

00:46 – The Self-to-Self conversation: Understanding your feelings first

03:58 – Start with internal inquiry and validation 

07:39 – The Self-to-Other conversation: What action will best serve our relationship’s bond?

10:07 – Surface-level attraction can inspire deeper exploration in relationships

14:26 – Giving yourself permission to falter and fail

15:16 – Have tact and compassion: Prioritizing the relationship bond

17:50 – Put yourself in their shoes: Doing your own work first

18:34 – Engaging with your partner on a humorous level

20:16 – Slowing it down and looking ahead vs. Taking risks and plunging in